Self-Care Isn’t Selfish: Why This Mantra Matters Now More Than Ever

Apr 30, 2020 | Coaching

At the moment, it’s easy to forget that we need to practice self-care.

In my last newsletter, I commented on how it seems the world has flipped up and over. A few people have said to me how much they relate to this. Suddenly our roles have changed. Moms are adding teaching to their diverse skill set as home-schooling becomes a norm; entrepreneurs are finding new ways to bring their businesses online, and people suddenly have to accommodate their work at home. Even for me, my workshops have become virtual, and connecting with you has become much more digitally focused.

We might have spent what we thought would be extra free time for improving our skill sets, and instead, many people are feeling lost, stressed, and that there are a lot of additional burdens that add to the feeling of loneliness and crisis.

It’s time to remember my mantra: Self-care isn’t selfish

The Importance of Self-Care

 More than ever, taking the time to look after yourself is essential. As a holistic coach, I find it necessary that we look at the whole picture. It’s not just about taking the time to relax, or eating healthy, or getting enough exercise. It’s also about taking time to do things that support our mental health and relationships.

We need to take care of ourselves, especially now that our lives are turned upside down. But how can we look after ourselves?

Simple Steps to take

 Here are a few simple strategies I’ve used to get through the past few weeks and practice my own self-care:

Keep to a schedule that’s close to your routine

Even though it’s not possible to do everything in the same way – make sure you set yourself a daily routine that also gives you time to “time out.” Keep your meal times, your bedtimes, and even your work times on similar schedules to normal so that your rhythms remain identical. This will also help your sleep patterns so you can feel refreshed. Avoid working late unless you have to!

Eat the rainbow

Healthy food habits mean healthy bodies. Boredom might mean that you’re reaching for the chocolate and the chips, but switch it up with some nuts or dried fruit if you’re feeling peckish. Make sure your meals are balanced but straightforward. You don’t have to turn into a gourmet chef (unless you want to!) at this time. The emphasis is on healthy eating.

Connect with friends and family

With more and more ways to reach out and connect (think Facetime, WhatsApp, Zoom!), there’s no reason you can’t have a virtual party! Why not have a group chat with your closest friends and connect online? You can recharge and connect even without being there in person. We’re lucky to be in this digital age! (Don’t forget to remind them about how important self-care is!)

Why not take advantage of the online Mom and Me workshop – dance, relax and learn a hand massage together! The ultimate moment for self-care for you, and your mom. Email me for details

Take time for downtime

Downtime is important. Whether it’s meditation with your favorite oils diffusing, or following an online course, you must take time to do things you enjoy. We’re limited only by our imaginations. Thank goodness for the internet where we can broaden our creativity and switch off without the need to leave the house. Read a book in a comfy chair, take a bubble bath, start a new online course, or simply sit, take a couple of deep belly breaths and let the stress go.  If you’re interested, I’m also running an online relaxation retreat, and you can find out more by getting in touch.

Stay Active

We must keep physically fit because that directly influences our emotional well-being. Don’t feel limited by your home boundaries. There are many online offerings for keeping fit and healthy at home at the moment – with many trainers and body coaches offering free courses through apps and YouTube. Pick a place and time in your daily routine, and do a few minutes of exercise. If you can, taking a walk (practising social distancing) can also help refresh and recharge your mind, as well as keep you healthy.

Right now, I walk, cycle, or skate during the week if the weather inspires me. I really enjoy outdoor sports during excellent weather. Otherwise, I’ll put on my favorite music and have a dance or two, do some easy squats and stretches. I meditate or at least sit quietly every day and have also picked up an old hobby from ‘back in the day.’ JUGGLING! It is seriously good for your arms and just clearing your mind. If this isn’t a form of mediation, I don’t know what is.

When it feels like too much

There might come a time when it feels like even taking these steps won’t be enough, and that you’re struggling with the situation. I want you to know this: This is entirely normal. Don’t let these feelings overwhelm you, though. I want you to take this time to sit back and reflect and ask yourself these questions:

  • When you look back on this past year, what did you love?
  • What were some of your magical moments?
  • What did you accomplish?
  • What, or who are you grateful for?

Take the time to reflect on these questions, and take comfort in the answers. It is a stressful time, but the answers to these questions might help provide you with some happier moments to cherish and take away and boost your mood.

And now, for the Hula Hoop!

Something I recently set myself a challenge for was to learn to hula-hoop again! I did some research into weights and fitness, and I got myself a hoop. Let me tell you this – it’s tough but enjoyable, and an excellent exercise for your core. (Just like juggling!)

What I love about my hula hoop, is that it gives me the freedom to let go of the stress or anything bogging me down. I can embrace my inner kid! I even recently shared this video of my attempts on my Instagram account.

I got some excellent feedback, including this –

“Thanks for sharing your hula hoop tip! I bought one, and I am loving it! It makes me feel like a kid again. It also takes my mind off my worries, and my kids think it’s hilarious. I have to admit I must look pretty silly, but who cares!”

So here’s my challenge to you. Take the time to do one thing each day that makes you feel happier, more positive, and lets you free yourself from any judgment or distractions. After all, who cares? Let yourself have fun and feel free! (But keep in mind all the social distancing rules.)

I’m curious about how you take up my challenge this month and would love to hear from you about what you did! Connect with me, call me, and let’s talk about how you’re managing in these extraordinary times.

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