Ever feel like you’re arguing about the same damn thing over and over again?
This isn’t what you imagined life would be like when you said ‘I do’ – is it?
Does This Sound Familiar?
… Are you frustrated that you keep running into the same negative patterns and can’t seem to solve it together?
… Has arguing, fighting or simply ignoring each other become a normal part of your life?
…Do you feel sad, angry or insecure because the connection and passion you once shared has disappeared?
… Does your sex life suck because you just don’t feel it anymore, or too damn tired to make an effort and feel guilty?
… Are you living more like roommates and feel lonely in your relationship?
… You focus all your time and energy on your career, household, kids or social agenda, to not face up to the fact that things haven’t been going well in your relationship for a while…
Contrary to what most people think,
the real cause of your relationship struggles often rests within yourself.
Contrary to what most people think, the real cause of your relationship struggles often rest within yourself.
Often, we think “but it’s my spouse!”
But, you actually (through no fault of your own) brought a lot of this into your marriage.
We all unknowingly inherit a blueprint or mindset from our family (and the generations that raised them) about life and relationships that greatly influence the way we live our lives.
In addition to the good bits, it also results in repeating many of the difficulties, dysfunctional patterns and destructive behaviors that are part of our family heritage.
The only way to fix what is happening is to become aware of the real root of the problem.
Sustainable solutions and permanent positive changes are available ONLY once you become aware of what is hidden away within your own individual blueprint.
The more self aware you become, of who you are, how you’re triggered, what gets you upset and how you respond to life the better you can deal with the issues that come up.
“In a relationship standoff, the past and present meet.”
– Esther Perel
In other words, you need to become aware of what you brought in and reenact in your relationship.
And it is only when you look at the relational context of your whole family that you’re able to reveal the causes of your relationship conflicts and begin to process any underlying vulnerabilities that come up.
This then allows you to process it and make room to heal, while also developing your relationship skills.
If you think about it, it’s pretty amazing.
Our partners confront us with all the subconscious and unprocessed issues that we carry over from our childhood.
Just by being, interacting and loving them, they show us the parts of ourselves that still need some love and attention.
If you look at it this way, our relationships can be an amazing pathway to really getting to know ourselves and not just the source of frustration and pain.
Hey there, I’m Carol!
Relationship Coach & Family Constellation Facilitator
And believe me… I’ve been there.
I’ve been in relationships and marriages where I felt alone, insecure, unable to communicate my needs and kept running into the same frustrating problems over and over again without a clue as to why.
If only I’d known that we subconsciously repeat patterns, attitudes, and destructive elements from our parents, grand-parents and sometimes even farther back then I would’ve probably been able to save my last marriage.
Hey there, I’m Carol!
Relationship Coach & Family Constellation Facilitator
And believe me… I’ve been there.
I’ve been in relationships and marriages where I felt alone, insecure, unable to communicate my needs and kept running into the same frustrating problems over and over again without a clue as to why.
If only I’d known that we subconsciously repeat patterns, attitudes, and destructive elements from our parents, grand-parents and sometimes even farther back then I would’ve probably been able to save my last marriage.
But most people are barely aware of this. Which is why a real solution for relationship problems usually remains out of reach, and divorce often becomes the powerless answer at the end.
That’s why I love it when couples show up before problems start, or at least before those problems become too serious.
If you want to get to the bottom of why you keep running in circles, uncovering those hidden dynamics is crucial. And, because of the complexity of these dynamics and feelings of vulnerability that arise, this is hard to do without the presence of a trusted, experienced relationship coach.
The women I love to work with are those who understand that a successful relationship is not much different than learning a new skill, taking care of your health or even running a successful business. You need insight, a good plan and a strong sense of commitment.
That’s why providing systemic constellations is one of the top 3 tools that I use in my Relationship Coaching process.
I went into the session without any expectations but after only a few minutes SO much became clear. The family constellation was very impressive and Carol’s guidance was so nice. I also felt like the exercises in letting go were very healing and I was able to release a lot!
Thank you so much Carol!
Imagine If You Could Quickly…
- Dissolve your limiting beliefs, long-standing issues, and damaging patterns…
- Learn the key insights and skills you need to take your relationship to the next level…
- Being able to relax in your relationship and allowing your partner to step up…
- Bringing back the spark to what has become pretty stale over time…
- And ultimately, feeling confident, supported and good about yourself and the connection you have with your partner.
INTRODUCING
THE CONSTELLATION CURE
for women who refuse to settle.
A systemic constellation is a quick and effective method to reveal the hidden dynamics, patterns and stresses of your origins, family or relationship and heal them.
What is unique about systemic constellations is that not only do they reveal and help correct the root cause of your relationship struggle, they provide you with a clear image of how relationships work, what problems arise, and especially why things can go sour.
INTRODUCING
THE CONSTELLATION CURE
for women who want to go to the next next
A systemic constellation is a quick and effective method to reveal the hidden dynamics, patterns and stresses of your origins, family or relationship and heal them.
What is unique about systemic constellations is that not only do they reveal and help correct the root cause of your relationship struggle, they provide you with a clear image of how relationships work, what problems arise, and especially why things can go sour.
I can’t thank you enough for everything you’ve done for me so far. After our first session, I started to think more specifically about my future.
It’s very difficult for me to express myself, but I noticed that I felt freer and less ashamed that life didn’t turn out the way I would’ve liked.
You are very sweet and amazing how you deal with my problems. You’re right that if I don’t dare to take risks or make changes, then all the shit I’ve been through was for nothing.
I’m now finally able to set my boundaries better in my relationships, which I’m so happy about. It’s a real blessing for me to know you.
Lots of love, M.
Here why you need to book
THE CONSTELLATION CURE TODAY
“A stitch in time can save nine.”
8 out of 10 women reading this will “think about it”, save this page as a tab, and then convince themselves that they’ll work on later. Until it’s too late…
Not getting professional help when there are underlying emotions and patterns that are wreaking havoc on your relationship’s emotional connection and each partner’s wellbeing can create bigger and more serious obstacles to overcome in the future.
It’s like a large boulder rolling out of control down a hill. The farther it rolls, the more damage it causes and the harder it is to push it back to the place it belongs.
Divorce statistics speak for themselves. Approximately half of all marriages end in divorce.
You don’t want to leave that up to chance. Trust me.
Really think about how much a divorce costs in money, time, chaos and hurt as the life of a couple and family disintegrate?
Why am I even asking you to go there?!
Because, most likely you’ll only want to work on your relationship when things have become SO bad and it feels SO heavy, that you don’t want to get out of bed in the morning.
So, you can continue to find ways of relief like busying yourself and spending more time at work or with the kids, binge watch Netflix or drink too much alcohol – whatever the way you find getting relief is. But this will never lead to true healing and connection with your partner.
Or you can choose to say I’m done living with the pain and the hurt, I’ve got to let this go and truly heal. That’s going to require courage, but you’ll thank yourself for it later.
Don’t wait for something terrible to happen. You deserve better.
Here why you need to book
THE CONSTELLATION CURE TODAY
“A stitch in time can save nine.”
8 out of 10 women reading this will “think about it”, save this page as a tab, and then convince themselves that they’ll work on later. Until it’s too late…
Not getting professional help when there are underlying emotions and patterns that are wreaking havoc on your relationship’s emotional connection and each partner’s wellbeing can create bigger and more serious obstacles to overcome in the future.
It’s like a large boulder rolling out of control down a hill. The farther it rolls, the more damage it causes and the harder it is to push it back to the place it belongs.
Divorce statistics speak for themselves. Approximately half of all marriages end in divorce.
You don’t want to leave that up to chance. Trust me.
Really think about how much a divorce costs in money, time, chaos and hurt as the life of a couple and family disintegrate?
Why am I even asking you to go there?!
Because, most likely you’ll only want to work on your relationship when things have become SO bad and it feels SO heavy, that you’re doubting whether you should even stay.
So, you can continue to find ways of relief like busying yourself and spending more time at work or with the kids, binge watch Netflix or drink too much alcohol – whatever the way you find getting relief is.
But this will never lead to true healing and connection with your partner.
Or you can choose to say I’m done living with the pain and the hurt, I’ve got to let this go and truly heal.
That’s going to require courage, but you’ll thank yourself for it later.
Don’t wait for something terrible to happen. You deserve better.
What’s Included?
No relationship or marriage is the same, therefore no constellation is the same.
But, I always give my clients the Royal treatment, which is a 3-part series that can cover common topics like:
- Why you keep getting into the same negative patterns.
- How to heal from hurt so you can move forward.
- How to rebuild trust once it’s been broken.
- Boundaries with work, family, money, time, and the opposite sex.
- Self-awareness and how to become confident.
Session 1 | Exploration
By the end of this session we’ll:
- Get to know each other and talk about what is going on in your life and what brought you here.
- Get a clear picture of what you’re struggling with and your goals.
- Make sure you have a good understanding of systemic constellations.
- Give you some homework that’ll get you started right away!
This first session is also intended to determine whether there is a click between us. After all, if you don’t have a good feeling about who you’re confiding in, you won’t get the most out of our sessions together. Trust is vital!
Session 2 | Deep-dive
By the end of this session we’ll:
- Have taken you through my signature constellation method.
- Start looking at your family history, reviewing the last few generations and diving deep into the origins of your family.
- From there, we look at patterns, and what events have made an impact on your family, and look for repetition and family loyalties.
- Bring new insights into your awareness to reveal how it has and continues to affect you.
- Evaluate these insights to change patterns, and help you find peace with the past.
We use a wonderful online program so you can do it at home behind your own computer.
Session 3 | Implementation
By the end of this session we’ll:
- Have checked in how you’re doing and coach you through things that may have come up since the constellation.
- Work out how you can deal with this and make an action-plan. This way you’ll be able to make the most out of the insights you gained from the constellation and ultimately, achieve your personal goals.
Common questions I encounter are about relationship breakdowns, divorce manoeuvres, child behavior issues, and a loss of passion.
Session 1 | Exploration
By the end of this session we’ll:
- Get to know each other and talk about what is going on in your life and what brought you here.
- Get a clear picture of what you’re struggling with and your goals.
- Make sure you have a good understanding of systemic constellations.
- Give you some homework that’ll get you started right away!
This first session is also intended to determine whether there is a click between us. After all, if you don’t have a good feeling about who you’re confiding in, you won’t get the most out of our sessions together. Trust is vital!
Session 2 | Deep-dive
By the end of this session we’ll:
- Have taken you through my signature constellation method.
- Start looking at your family history, reviewing the last few generations and diving deep into the origins of your family.
- From there, we look at patterns, and what events have made an impact on your family, and look for repetition and family loyalties.
- Bring new insights into your awareness to reveal how it has and continues to affect you.
- Evaluate these insights to change patterns, and help you find peace with the past.
We use a wonderful online program so you can do it at home behind your own computer.
Session 3 | Implementation
By the end of this session we’ll:
- Have checked in how you’re doing and coach you through things that may have come up since the constellation.
- Work out how you can deal with this and make an action-plan. This way you’ll be able to make the most out of the insights you gained from the constellation and ultimately, achieve your personal goals.
Common questions I encounter are about relationship breakdowns, divorce manoeuvres, child behavior issues, and a loss of passion.
“A good relationship coach doesn’t have to cost a fortune.
Certainly not when you compare it to what your relationship is costing you now in terms of energy, confidence, and heartache.”
TThe Constellation Cure
for women who refuse to settle.
One single investment of
3 sessions for
€649 € 297
I did a family constellation with Carol.
It was a fairly spontaneous action, but it has given me so much insight into the dynamics within our family. I now understand why things always go the way they do and more importantly: I now understand how to deal with the issues that come up. I now recognize what my role is and how I can lovingly take this responsibility on.
Thank you, dear Carol!
Petra
“A good relationship coach doesn’t have to cost a fortune.
Certainly not when you compare it to what your relationship is costing you now in terms of energy, confidence, and heartache.”
The Constellation Cure
for women who want it all.
One small investment of
€649 € 297
I did a family constellation with Carol.
It was a fairly spontaneous action, but it has given me so much insight into the dynamics within our family.
I now understand why things always go the way they do and more importantly: I now understand how to deal with the issues that come up.
I also recognize what my role is and how I can lovingly take this responsibility on.
Thank you, dear Carol!
Petra
Burning Questions
Will it work?
If you’re currently listening to an internal monologue that’s looping over and over and sounding a little like this: “Will it work? Will it really? Is this really the right program for me? it’s time for a breather.
The investment you’re about to make in The Constellation Cure is really an investment in yourself: in your self-belief, your mindset, and your future potential.
There is no way I can categorically promise you that this program will deliver you out-of-this-world results, because I don’t know what you’re going to do with it once you buy it. Only you have control over that.
What I can promise is that what I teach in this program worked for me personally and has worked for hundreds of others I’ve coached and mentored since. What did we all have in common? We took a leap of faith, committed fully and invested time and energy to dive into the deep and use the insight in our every day life. If you’re ready, I know you can do that too!
Online coaching, does that even work?
Online coaching works incredibly well for most people I work with. At the moment, I only offer online coaching as myself and my clients prefer that in the midst of everything happening in the world today.
I’ve adapted all my tools and techniques so that online coaching is possible. Sometimes I’ll email you a document before a session so that you have it ready when the session starts.
I live in a different country, can I still get coaching?
Absolutely! I have lots of experience coaching clients online that live in different countries.
All you need is a solid internet connection, the ability to speak English, and the commitment to make a change!
When will the live coaching calls be held?
After you sign up, I’ll contact you a.s.a.p to make appointments that work for both of our calendars!
I’m just not sure I’m ready to make the investment…
Coaching is unbelievably expensive … if you don’t do it!
The costs (both financially and emotionally) of not investing in your relationship can be huge.
Financially. Just think about how much a mediator, the cost of a divorce lawyer, and the monthly child/partner support would cost. And that’s not even considering having to find and furnish a new home for at least one of you (and perhaps sell the old one) and refinancing your current home life. In short, divorce is expensive. But the financial costs are only a fraction of the suffering.
The emotional costs are much higher. Think about the arguments and the tension that everyone (including children) suffers from even before divorce is on the table. And then the pain that is inflicted when you do decide to call it quits. All of this has a profound impact on your happiness in life and that of your children. And that while it could have been prevented by looking beyond the surface so that you can slowly but surely feel connected again.
Myself or my partner speaks Dutch
Geweldig! Ik ook! I’ve been living in Holland for the biggest part of my life and speak fluent Dutch.
My relationship is actually going pretty great, is this still useful for me?
That’s amazing! I bet you’re here because you know how important it is to work on yourself and your relationship before problems arise.
I always love working with clients like you and have developed a number of amazing methods to help you create an even steadier foundation so you can look forward to a lifetime of love.
I also offer quarterly H.E.A.R.T sessions for couples who are looking for a quick boost and want to continue making their relationship a priority. Send me an email at carol@soul-essentials.nl to apply.
Can I get coaching by myself?
Totally!
I approach relationship coaching differently than you’d expect because I start with YOU. Let’s be honest, you can’t expect your partner to do the work just because you’re ready.
When you take the lead and develop the mindset and relationship toolkit you need to be the best partner you can be, your relationship will start to transform beyond your wildest dreams.
It’s all too common that after you’ve started to make positive change your partner becomes interested in joining the process too.
Is all of this confidential?
Absolutely. I take your privacy incredibly seriously and will handle all your personal information with the utmost of care.
What is the difference between a coach and a therapist?
Therapists determine illnesses and pathologies while analyzing their client’s past as a tool for understanding present behaviors, whereas life coaches simply identify and describe current problematic behaviors so the client can work to modify them. In other words, therapists focus on “why” certain behavioral patterns occur, and coaches work on “how” to work toward a goal.
I’ve never worked with a coach before. What’s the first step?
I work with ‘first-timers’ all the time so there’s nothing to be worried about. The best place to get started is to either book a 30 minute Clarity Session or book a family constellation.
Still have a question?
It really matters to me that you feel you’re making a great investment so I want to make sure you have all the information you need to say yes to this coaching package, and yes to yourself. You can contact me at carol@soul-essentials.nl and I’ll get back to you within 24 hours of it arriving in my inbox.
When I first spoke to Carol my wish was to better handle my relationships, whether it’s family or marriage. What I love about Carols style is that it felt like I’m talking to my best friend who cares that I would be at my best. Her approach is diverse, she communicated well, made me think outside the box, gave me exercises which made me see things rationally and in a non biased way. Almost immediately I felt calmer, more forgiving, positive and most importantly stopped worrying about everyone for no reason.
Whoever knows Carol is lucky to have her in their lives.
Farah (37)